Create the life you deserve and crave
Warning warning! Tough questions ahead. If you’re not ready to accept responsibility for creating your own life please exit the building now.
You can’t just sit there and wait for people to give you that golden dream.
You’ve got to get out there and make it happen for yourself.
→FIND what makes your heart sing
Articulate what it actually is that you want to DO every day. What do you actually LOVE to do; I mean really, really love? It could be painting, writing, even staying on top of your filing. This is where some soul-searching magic has to happen, because what is amazing for one person, might be completely different for somebody else. We’re all different.
Take a few minutes to think about your ideal week. Unless you’re in desperate need of a holiday, my guess is your dream includes some kind of meaningful work. The question is now
“Can this be turned into something that can contribute to your income?”
The only thing guaranteed to make you stick with something for the long haul – and be happy – is passion.
It took me ages to realise I like promoting and sharing my enthusiasm for certain products and services. It would seem that retail (or selling something I genuinely believe in) gets me excited. What I actually
want NEED! is to open up a shop, sell items that I believe in, and promote ethical practices. And for other people this might seem like one big hell.
During my school years I remember my aunt telling me to map out on a piece of butchers paper all the different metaphorical paths I could take after leaving school. This included paths through university, tafe, working straight out of school and to the consequences of not doing anything. Where would these paths lead me? Where would I end up, and on what kind of wage and happiness? I think this is a fabulous tool to use at any ‘crossroads’ in your life, even if it’s just to plan what you intend on doing next!
Without planning there is no definite goal to work towards. If you have an ideal lifestyle or job in mind, planning is crucial and the quicker you start jotting down what it is you want, the faster you can make it happen.
So grab a piece of paper and write what you love to do, including your hobbies and everyday tasks you like doing in your day job. Do any of these translate into a lifestyle or livelihood? For example, if you love painting, why not set up a painting space and hold classes? If you love being organised and on top of things, why not freelance your coaching services out to busy people to help them organise their lives?
As long as you’re thinking about what you would like to do and actively working towards it, you’re on the right track to get there!
→ Upskill and start learning (today!)
Upskilling and always learning is vital to keeping motivated and passionate. There is ALWAYS more to learn.
So you want to be a published writer? Don’t just wait to hear back about your submissions and pitches, keep plugging at it and sign up for a writers course.
So you want to open up a shop? Start reading other people’s stories about how they went about opening a shop and researching what you need to start.
So you want to be paid for your photography? Maybe it’s time to invest some time watching Photoshop and Lightroom tutorials, start building up your portfolio and pushing your boundaries.
Fill your brain with new knowledge, whether it’s through books on the subject to watching some videos on YouTube explaining the nuts and bolts. Read up on people in similar fields. Find out how other people got to where they are.
Research is your best friend – and if you’ve got an internet connection (which I assume you do) – it’s free!
Just start now and don’t stop. The inspiration will keep you going. The more you learn and become invested in a topic the sooner you will find where YOU fit within the niche.
→ Take ownership of your plans and dreams!
(Otherwise known as ‘faking it’ until you make it)
It goes a little like this if you want to be known as a writer, say you are one. Simple.
You will be amazed at the way people will treat you once you open up about your dreams. Soon everyone will want to help you get there.
For example, before I started BettyMag, I knew I wanted to make a magazine (regardless of the fact I didn’t have any journalism experience or graphic design skills). However naively, step one for me was making a Facebook page. Although I’m sure people thought I was a little nuts, the fact that I started the Facebook page meant I had to keep going. I was telling the universe that this is what I wanted to do, and in effect, preparing myself and everyone else for it.
People began to associate BettyMag (the then non-existent magazine) with me. I began to receive pitches and submissions and offers of help. Effectively, by ‘owning’ the fact that I was making a magazine people began treating me differently.
Yes, I could have made the Facebook page AFTER the magazine, but I wouldn’t have had as nearly as much interest in the process and people willing to put me in touch with people in the know. Plus, I wouldn’t have been as motivated if nobody knew what I was doing.
So what are you waiting for? Get out that piece of butchers paper and start scribbling. Please let me know what your big plans are and if you have any tips or pushes for me x